Relationship Zone: How To Talk To Women

I cannot tell you how many times I get hit up by dudes of all races asking how to smash black girls. I guess that’s the price I have to pay for picking a Tongue-in-cheek name for my site, the ignorant will always take me literally. For the record there is no default way to drop panties, even Wilt Chamberlain got turned down a few times. Unlike men, women have an entirely different handle on their horniness, and outside of a Robert Redford indecent proposal the odds of her fucking you just because you do x,y,z constantly fluctuate depending on a number of factors specific to that female. In short—just because she fucked me doesn’t mean she’ll fuck you and just because she fucked you doesn’t mean she’ll fuck me. But in the interest of fairness, I do think I should go over how to talk to women in general terms for those dudes who are stuck in their shell. Before you ladies roll your eyes and say, “fuck them, back to us” I already dedicated two chapters in the forthcoming book to the awkward or shy woman’s spit game so you’ll have to wait. I don’t want to teach you fellas how to lie better in order to get pussy, that would be counterproductive to the entire reason I write. Niggas are like, “we know the chicks who read your shit won’t fall for it, but give us game to buss open them hoes that read at a 7th grade level and get their world news from mediatakeout”, not going to do it. However, I will tell you how to improve yourself internally in order to be more confident and in control when you’re out there on that battlefield.

Assess & Stress

We all rate ourselves. You look in the mirror, you look at your friends, and you look at those who are in positions that you want to be in, then you measure your looks, finances, and talent along those lines. Don’t pretend like you don’t, embrace it and do it often because this is where you self-confidence comes from. It doesn’t really matter to the outside world if you look better than Lebron James or not, if you believe it and that’s what you hold your hat on when you’re out in the club, then go with it. If you have a short man complex that you’ve been dealing with since you hit puberty, but you drive trucks and make more money than the rest of your friends, let that success be your fuel. No matter what you have going against you, there has to be something you see within yourself as special. If you wake up in the morning thinking how you’re not as handsome as that guy, not as good at your job as this guy, and not making as much money as another guy, you’re going to feel like shit, act like shit, and get treated like shit. Love something about yourself, and use that as the anchor as you go about improving other areas of your life that aren’t as good. One of the main reason’s keeping Boy X from getting as many women as Boy Y is doubt. If you don’t think you’re good enough to pull shorty with the light eyes that sits behind you on the train every morning, then you’re not going to pull her. Sure you can pump yourself up and get the nerve to ask for her number but you’re going to come off like a lame. Nervous, mumbling, bad eye contact, no real spit besides some corny shit like, “I see you every morning and always forget to ask your name”. Go sit down lame nigga, cus you aren’t even going to get a chance to smell the coochie with that kind of swag. Women smell confidence from a mile away and it makes their nipples hard. If you know that you are great then you will always come off as great. Will you land that woman on the train? Maybe not, but you’ll land someone just as alluring to you if you continue to go after what you want with unwavering charisma.

Okay now you believe in yourself, but chicks still decline. This is where the stress portion comes into play, you have to show a woman that best part of you, then stress that aspect. If you have a nice body, step your clothes game up to show that. Fuck if the haters say you’re rocking your sister’s tank top– show out. If you’re a fat boy with jokes, lead with that Cedric The Entertainer side of your personality. If you’re not the most fashionable or prettiest of dudes, but you get money, Stunt hard! All that “like me for me” stuff is cool, but when you’re first meeting a woman she can’t gaze into your soul and see that you love your Grandma and rescue puppies. That chick is looking to see what externally makes you worth her time. I get emails from guys who are too hefty or call themselves “too normal” and say that no matter how much they approach women they rarely get anywhere with them because they don’t look like Trigga Trey or have dope boy money. Stop complaining like you’re a fucking victim. All these ugly broke niggas getting pussy on the reg, and you want to scream “life’s not fair”? The great thing about women is that no matter how shallow they can be when it comes to looks, they are notorious for giving damn near any man at least 2.7 minutes of their time. Every dude reading this has been up in the club where some dusty ass Sticky Fingaz looking cat pulls a chick to the side and whispers in her ear. I know you’ve set there and thought, “Shit if I knew she wasn’t stuck up, I would have holla’d ten minutes ago”. That’s my point, If a girl is single, even if she has a type she’s out hunting for, she will still give your non-perfect ass a few minutes of her time because ladies love attention. That’s why you have to be prepared when approaching instead of just going YOLO. Know what you bring to the table and stress that to her in those 2.7 minutes before she blows you off with, “Sorry, I have to make a call real quick, it was nice meeting you”. You can keep her attention as long as you lead with your best foot, so stop just randomly approaching with nothing to say besides, “what’s your name”.

She Does Bite, But So What

Why is she with that clown? Because that clown went for it. One thing to understand about non-Spartan shook women, is that no matter how fly you think you come off, they will not come over to you unsolicited. The average woman is scared to death of engaging a man first, which leaves the ball in your court the majority of the time. This is the most awesome part about being a man—we have a choice. The girl you think you’re not in the same league as is most likely too afraid to even wave at those guys she deems in her league, which by defaults keeps her in your league. Women outnumber men in most major cities and universities, this means that the law of settling is always in your favor no matter who you are. This applies to random women you meet, but its most successful when trying to win over women who ignored you the first time around. That gorgeous Ethiopian girl in your class didn’t want to come over to your dorm despite the fact that you know your positives and stressed them when flirting with her. Rejection happens, but when you’re dealing with a female you see often No rarely means Never. Ask her again in the middle of the semester after the guy she was crushing on has put her in the friendzone or refused to approach her. She’s been humbled, now she’s ready to reconsider her options and give you a shot. For women settling is horrible, but it’s the reason most of these bums have bad bitches. You get exactly what you want, while she has to look on the bright side. It sounds fucked up, but every dude over 25 has vacationed in the vagina of a woman who thought of him as the second choice, third choice, or not their type.

I can write a million blogs telling women to go after the men they want, but how many are going to really listen to me after they’ve been rejected versus how many are going to go with the ONLY guy who’s asking her out to Cheesecake factory? Remember, not every woman will think you’re cute, funny, or care about the watch on your wrist, but you can’t try to guess which response you will get. Additionally you have to check your ego at the door and realize that sometimes a girl’s rejection could be based on things that were going on in her life when you asked, not based on your appeal. If you circle back around after enough time, she may reconsider. This doesn’t mean hound a girl on the weekly, that’s thirsty and pathetic, fall back and wait for the sign that she may have lowered expectations or is in a new place to where she can see that you are worth her time. In school it usually happens after a semester or two. In the real world you can usually tell by how much nicer she comes off when you meet again. Now you get the big happy smile as oppose to the short fuck-off grin you got before— it’s on now. You will always get the quality of girl you want as long as you’re not afraid to fail. Sabotage you fear does, Yoda taught me that. A closed mouth doesn’t get pussy, an explicit text from this girl who I waited too long to get at taught me that.

Girls Talk, Men Listen

Your confidence is on 100, you came off like a man who knew what he wanted, and you got the number. Here’s where 80% of you are going to fuck it up—Conversation. One of the homies who I’ve been emailing with hit me up after his last fail with the entire transcript of the phone conversation with this girl he pulled. He didn’t understand where he went wrong but the shit was as clear as Keifer & Janelle’s track marks once I read it. Fellas, getting a girl’s phone number doesn’t mean you’re going to fuck. It doesn’t even guarantee you will even get past the text stage. Don’t assume that she’s on your dick because you got a  in reply to your, “it was good meeting you” text. In a woman’s mind you may just be someone to talk to because she’s bored, so always assume that you have to put in work! Even if a woman thinks you’re sexy, one bad conversation can turn you ugly. This means you don’t have room for error, so let your personality shine through from the jump. Back to the little homie’s conversation, it was one of those high school type, “What did you do today… oh that’s cool… did you have fun”. He bored the panties back on a girl he probably could have got with. STOP THE DRYNESS! Unless you’re in a relationship, you have no business starting a conversation about a woman’s day. You don’t care if she had to babysit for her ratchet Aunt and that the baby kept crying, and she doesn’t want to be reminded that her life is boring and watching someone’s kid was the highlight of her day. Furthermore do not spend all the time chit chatting about TV and other trivial bullshit. When you first start talking to a girl she’s not going to be that comfortable, so while she does talk to her girlfriends about Nicki Minaj Vs Mariah Carey for forty minutes straight, she isn’t that relaxed enough around you to do the same. Girls love to laugh, but a lot of you don’t know when to stop being a fool and end up hitting a nerve that pisses her off. So what should you talk about? Her.

Girls love to talk about themselves, not what they did, not what they’re watching, but who they are and who they are not.  It’s not them being vain or having motor mouths, it’s because most don’t have males who actually want to listen to them on that level. It’s amazing how many females are bottled up, and it’s rare that they meet a guy who’s not just trying to get them to send naked pictures or direct the conversation back to the last time she had her box ate. If you can master the art of being the type of man that can listen, she will always want to take your call. Even though you may not be high on her list when it comes to looks or money, the fact that you are there to lean on and see things from her perspective makes you invaluable. Do not feel a need to jump in with your own life story, it sounds mean, but women don not want to hear that shit when they’re trying to unload things they never get to express. There will be times when you get to go into your feelings, but in the beginning place the focus on her and really get to understand who she is. Stick to small doses of who you are, such as what you do for a living, goals, and what you bring to the table that other men don’t. At the same time, keep your intentions clear or you will fall into the friendzone. A lot of fellas get in the habit of playing it too cool or too friendly, and platonic their way out of a girlfriend. Mixed signals happen when the two of you don’t communicate on that freaky level, gentlemen know how to pop for phone sex too. If “no new friends” is the motto, verbalize that she can get early and often before you become just her “brother”. Combine the ability to be someone she can talk to all night with sexual chemistry and you’re gold, Ponyboy.

What Do You Really Want From Her?

This is the part where you can turn a good girl bad if you’re not careful. Women are fiercely loyal once you embed yourself in their lives. It doesn’t matter if she didn’t think you were that cute, if you don’t have a job, or that you can be a bit of an asshole. You put in the work and made her see you as someone worthy of her trust and affection, now she likes you in spite of all those negatives because you showed her the type of attention and patience most guys don’t. Some girls will assume that by putting in that kind of work you see her as something serious, but we all know that isn’t really true. Forget what she thinks you want and the initial reason you went after her: it’s time to ask what you really want from her now that you’ve seen all she has to offer.

Pussy: She’s cool and all, but you just want to fuck.

Relationship: You’re not trying to marry her, but you damn sure want to handcuff something this bomb and keep her away from the rest of the world.

Friendship: She’s not someone you want to be tied down to, but a girl you want to keep around just to have fun with.

Any dude who says he doesn’t know what he wants from a girl he’s known for more than 30 days is a liar. I guarantee you’re not just “seeing where it goes” save those lies for the basic bitches, this is the brotherhood you’re talking to. If you’re confused as to what you want from her, it’s only because you’re allowing nerves and/or peer pressure to overrule your gut instinct. Women hate to hear this, but we as men know that a girl’s personality or lack thereof will quickly turn her from a potential girlfriend to headache in less than two weeks. We all have the right to change our minds about a person, that’s why we get to know that pretty girl with the phat ass instead of just proposing to her because of how she looks in a bikini. Let me make something clear in terms of guilt. You have the right to just want to have fun, to date multiple girls, and to fuck like a rabbit until you feel it’s time to grow up. Get serious when you’re ready, not because you hit a certain age, your mother says so, or a girl is really nice to you. Do You until you meet that Game Changer, which means keep your options open and explore until the lighting of a bad bitch strikes and takes away that desire to holla at new girls. A female with a high opinion of herself will tell you all the things she does and brings to the table, but if you don’t feel that electric connection, then don’t buy into it—keep moving. That’s not to say that you should withhold information while searching for Miss Right. Once you master the art of talking to women and getting them to open up, do not waste their time and your time misleading them with lies or letting them assume shit is more serious than it is.

Don’t Sell Your Soul For Pussy

There are things I call innocent lies and then there are heartbreaking lies. An innocent lie is, “I want you to come over and chill cus I miss you, I won’t try nothing”. There is no harm in luring a grown woman back to your place. If she believes that you’re not going to try and finger her halfway through Hunger Games, then she’s an idiot. Those are little cat and mouse games that men and women play. A heartbreaking lie is, “Yes I want to be with you, you’re not like the rest”, when you know damn well you barely like the bitch, and just want to use the title to get in that pussy. Dawg, believe in your game! If you talked to her the right way and impressed her, she wants to smash, you don’t need to tip the scales by lying about how this shit is destined. I always give girls shit for playing the victim, but in this case they have a right to complain, because some men do too much to get something that’s going to be handed to them anyway. My boy told me, “Man you can’t just say you want to fuck because they won’t fuck”, that’s sort of true, but if your game is tight you don’t have to say a word. I get tons of emails from women who openly talk about how they had sex, even after the guy said he didn’t want anything serious. Women do what they want to do with whom they want to do it with! If shorty’s feeling you, nothing besides killing her mother or deleting Scandal off her DVR will stop her from bussing it open for you, regardless of a relationship status. She may give you the cold shoulder for a minute after you tell her you’re not ready to be serious, but if you continue to be a real friend, she’ll most likely still fuck you. If she doesn’t, oh well, you can repeat the same steps and pull another girl, and this time you may actually meet one you like.

If your only focus is “How can I have sex with girls” then you’re missing out on the true beauty of women. Physical attraction is nothing compared to the chemistry you can have with a woman that can turn you on mentally as well. There are hoes, and there are women, if you just want sex then don’t bother dating, hit the ATM then go buy some pussy. If you want to experience what women really have to offer, stop looking at them as objects and start looking at them as prospects. Approaching women can be intimidating, rejection is always scary, and actually falling for one is even more terrifying. The rollercoaster of is she right for life or just right for a few nights puts us men in a position where we occasionally have to hurt feelings, and no matter how easy you let a girl off after you figure out she’s not the one, you will be painted the bad guy. Love is a cruel process of elimination but a key part of life. You can either stay behind your keyboard beating off to Pornstars or you go through the trials and tribulations of finding a woman that makes you a better man. It all starts with you.

-Culled from blackgirlsareeasy.com, 

This is a must read for guys and ladies can also learn a thing or two. 

Have a great weekend.