Émotions Déchaînées (Unchained emotions): It Is Time For Battle In The War Room

In a world where we are faced with daily challenges, heartbreaks, betrayals,  sickness, battles and tears, A lot of people have lost their voices, given up and even ended up on a part of self - destruction. We have stopped watching out for each Other and taking our issues to God. We leave God out of Our daily lives and we only remember God after we have gotten into a tunnel. We fight battles which should have been for God and we judge those who we should overlook or educate. 

There are some of us who do not even remember when they prayed to God. They would rather cry and murmur about life's challenges than take it to the miracle worker. Those who seek God, gets seek by Good things. Yes good things my darling, that includes, good health, successful career, growing business, happy marriage, loving courtship, well mannered children, divine favour and miracles. They swim in the sea of Goodness and God's grace is sufficient in their lives. Though they may be in the world, they do not live like those of the world because their light shines brightly. 

I know someone somewhere is going through one challenge or the other today but I just want to encourage you and let you know it is not over. You would overcome and celebrate your victory this year if you take all your worries to God. He is the one who turns the mess in your life into a message. If you give God your all, Every day of your life would be like Christmas  (celebration). "You can't see the glory except you see the mockery." Do not be dismayed when people laugh at you but instead take it all to God and remind Him of his word.  Soon and very soon they shall be the ones who would celebrate the giant in you. Remember you are created for dominion and too loaded to fail.

Today, i would also be sharing the link to a movie and music video to encourage a soul today and to remind you that God is waiting patiently for you to ask for his help. Seek Him and live a happy life. The movie WAR ROOM is an American gospel movie directed by Alex Kendrick and was released in August 2015. It centers on the lives of some lukewarm christians (those who know God but are not strong in faith) and the challenges they face trying to play God and fighting against the wrong enemy. War room makes you realise who the enemy really is and teaches you how to face him with your weapon of prayer. 

The soundtrack a gospel song worth being on your most played play list is by Steven Curtis Chapman and is titled 'Warrior'. I would place the download links of both the music & movie and upload the music video from YouTube. Encourage someone not to give up today, touch a live, heal a hurting soul, hug a stranger, reach out to a friend who has given up, be a good samaritan, sow a seed where you  expect no harvest, spread love and laughter.  I love You all and i beg you to seek God by giving Him your heart today.

Click below to download the song 'Warrior'

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Click below to download the movie 'War 

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Watch the music video 'Warrior ' below

Have a lovely sunday evening.

Relationship Zone: When The Clock Starts Ticking!

Kids are blessings from God and a joy to those who have them. Our first mission on earth is to multiply it and as the scriptures says, in Genesis 1: 22, " Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth..... So each day,we should live according to God's expectations. I have come across a lot of young women who dread having kids in their forties and would do anything to start popping them out now. In our society, when a woman is past 30 or in your late 20s, friends and family members start asking when you are walking down the aisle. Some would even make it look like you are to be blamed for being single or you have some sort of ancestral curse upon your head. It gets so ugly that when a younger sibling or relative is getting married theY make hurtful remarks about your status.

I think getting married is a personal decision and if or when you choose to do It,  then it should concern nobody. Yes you read right, if you choose to do it. Not everyone wants to get married and i believe their personal decisions should be respected. Some people have been so messed up that they would live alone than have another person share in their messed up life (topic for another day). 

I can say i know what it feels like to desire the love and comfort of a second half. Having a friend to share your world with and bearing the fruits of that love. I have been blessed with great friends and family members who openly air their views on late marriage and their fear for the ticking clock. They are all good guys and ladies but still they have not been lucky in their search. Some of the guys have become what is called MAGA because girls keep using them for financial gains and neglecting their emotions. This has lead the guys to become PLAYBOYS thereby,  hurting good girls in the process. The good girls in turn are scared to love and would rather remain single or double or even triple date to avoid any heartbreak. Love is now a word in the pages of a romance novel and not a feeling we share. 

My darling, you are too beautiful to be mocked or depressed over being single. Take a stand today to live a colourful life. Follow some of these few steps to living your life to the fullest while you try to meet your life partner;

1. Make/ shave your hair in a style that suits your face. Look sharp, clean and attractive always. 

2. Join a social or sports club. 

3. Attend social events where young people would be present. 

4. Join a group in church / mosque. 

5. Learn a new language or start a professional course. Invest in yourself and upgrade to a higher/ more desirable level.

6. Join online friendship/ dating sites and meet new singles.

7. Maintain a good dress sense and Keep fit. 

8. Be friendly and approachable, stop wearing a frown and scaring off prospective dates. Stop showing everyone how depressed you are about your current situation. Try to avoid places and people that would dampen your spirit. Live a happy life.

9. Read self-help,  inspirational & emotional books and visit websites/ blogs. They would help you Make good use of your singlehood and prepare you for a future relationship. 

10. Last but certainly not the least, pray to God. He alone sees your heart and knows your pains. Prayer is the key to every challenge in life. 

If you try these few steps, you woud discover how interesting your life has turned out to be in a short while. You would be in a blissful state that not even the backlash & mocking from people would make you cry or get mad. The clock would tick but You would not notice it because God would send you that adorable man/woman you have been praying for and all your years of waiting would be rewarded. God sometimes saves The best for last, so don't let the ticking of the clock kill your swag. I believe 2016 would not come to an end without that special someone coming into your life. Stay afloat and keep smiling. 

I love you and wish you nothing but the best in your search. 

Émotions Déchaînées (Unchained emotions): When Désolé Is Not Enough To Save Your Amor!!!

Love means amor in french and désolé means sorry. Everyone who has ever fallen in love knows love is pain and pain is love. You can never escape being hurt or say I'm sorry when you are in love because they all go together hand in hand. We can never be too careful or escape hurting someone we love. Today we would be talking about why we hurt a corazón (means heart in Spanish ) that loves us and why we also don't forgive a loved one Who does. 

Love is beautiful and the most perfect gift any couple can share. You meet this amazing young woman who is caring, loving and devoted. Weekends when she visits, she helps you with chores and coOKs the most tasty meals. She would give Kim K a run for her money when it comes to looks and style, let's  not even mention her porn star bedroom skills. Walla!  you are telling everyone this is your wifeY and how lucky you are to have this angel. You keep yelling "meet my wife" whenever you are out together and showing her off. Few months after, curiosity leads you to go through her phone and that is when your world comes crashing. You discovered your perfect woman was not that perfect after all and like everyone of us, she has BAGGAGE. You can't get over the fact that there is a dude somewhere in a different city she is constantly chatting with and an ex who she is still trying to get over (still texting her). This is when You know if Amor is greater than désolé. 

Guadalupe grew up in a christian home with parents who were missionaries. After travelling round the world with her parents, she got accustomed to different traditions and lifestyle. After she turned 18, she relocated back to Canada Where she was born and got into the university, graduated with a first class in Information technology. Immediately after graduation, a top IT firm offered her a job with a juicy salary. When the firm decided to open a branch in Nigeria, Guadalupe was sent to head the place. Apart from the fact that her parents were Nigerians and she Was well travelled, Lupe Was the perfect choice. After being in Nigeria for two years, while jogging one early morning in her estate, she sprained her ankle and was in severe pains. All she could do was sit on the sidewalk and pray for help as she wriggled in pains. KevWe a young doctor was just going home from work after being at work all night, saw her and pulled over to help this Damsel in distress. After taking her home and soothing her pains, they exchanged contact and gradually became great friends. Before you could say AMOR, they had walked down the aisle. After 6 years of marriage and 6 kids (A son & A daughter), One morning Lupe wakes up to the cry of a child at the gate, Ese their neighbour's maid and her family. To cut the whole story short, Perfect KevWe had gotten a girl barely 19 years old pregnant and it had blown out of proportion when he abandoned her because she wanted to be his second wife. Guadalupe was new to The betrayal of a loved one. Her dad had been upright so were the missionaries she grew up with and her hubby had seem like a Perfect man too but what went wrong, why did he have to cheat and even stoop so low to date a maid, all these questions lead her straight to the hospital and lead to a miscarriage. This is when you have to know if Amor is greater and désolé is enough.

"I am sorry is all that i can say", this would be the song on the lips of Kim K lookalike and KevWe.  They would cry, beg and even have friends & family intercede on their behalf. This is when their second half has to sit and weigh their options. Should i forgive and reconcile; forgive and move on or never forgive and keep hating. In life we should know no one is perfect and we should love each day expecting to be hurt. We are quick to judge and caste stones on offenders and never Really finding the reason for their betrayal.

Kim k's lookalike had the honour of telling me her story. Like most ladies, she had fallen in love while in the university and lost her innocence to a Man who she thought the world of, Both of their families met and had even fixed a date when Mr L wakes up and tells her she is not good enough for him. He settles for an older and richer lady, thereby turning her world upside down. After getting over the pains, she decided never to put all her eggs in one basket. Even after meeting her new man, she decided to still keep another in a different city just in case things turn sour. It had taken him going through her phone and telling her off for her to realise it was wrong to play games with matters of the heart. 

Kevwe on the other hand had tried on several occasions to get his wife's attention. Lupe was always too tired or busy to cook. Lovemaking Was off the table for 2 months or more sometimes because wifeY was too tired. One day Ese's boss who is Kevwe's friend and their next door neighbour had sent his maid to give his sick friend and his kids some food since mummy was not home. It went on like this with Ese helping out in the house and one day her brewing friendship with Kevwe ( her Delta uncle) lead to wild games. Yes he should have been more careful but he was also not entirely at fault. 

Love is like an egg that should be handled with care, just one crack if not handled with care can lead to The destruction. I try not judge anyone when it comes to personal choices because I myself have made mistakes, hurt others and also messed up friendships.  I always tell anyone who complains about the flaws or betrayal of a loved to first and foremost weigh the good and bad side of the person. Think about the good things they have done for you and then the special attributes they possess. Next you think about their bad sides and my darling, if the good is more than the bad they have a pass mark.

Afterwards, talk to you erring partner and find out if they are willing to change, make amends and repent from their wrong ways. Ask about the future of your union and how they plan to make things rosy Again.  If this fella/babe is stammering or stuttering, know that they are still the same and not worth the sacrifice. You could either let them back in or give them time to work on themselves. Like I said in the beginning, sometimes désolé is not enough to save amor. Hearts would get broken and tears flow freely just to get the love and union you deserve. No relationship is perfect and it takes a brave heart to forgive a person who loves you. 

Wish you all the best in your relationship! 

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Émotions Déchaînées (Unchained emotions): The Road To Success Is Empty Before 5am (+ Loads Of Photo Quotes)

Since year 2016 started, I have been going through a phase. I have been thinking of ways to hustle and live my dream life. I started doing researches and got some knowledge on how to live a fulfilling life. I don't know about you but I don't want to be in the same place I was last year. I am not hungry for success but I am starving for success. 

Successful people don't just depend on a 9Am - 5Pm jobs, they Do 4am - 9Am jobs also. Their minds are always busy and they think of 7 or more ways to be successful.  They strive hard and work extra extra hard On each goal or career path they choose. Take the advice of one of the richest men in the world for instance Bill Gates, "I never took a day off in my twenties. Not one." You have to work 10 times harder as a youth, so you Don't have to explain to your older self someday why you Aren't living your dream life. 

Don't depend on your salary only to be successful, rather  invest it in your dreams. Sorry my dear friend, if you are depending on your salary alone With the economic state of Nigeria now, then you have snoozed and lost. "The average millionaire has seven sources of income." Yes 7, you read right. So those of you wondering Why AlikO Dangote is involved in the production of sugar, baking flour, cement, beverages, etc should know that he too discovered that the secret of being rich and successful is to depend on more than one source of income. I know That not all we venture into would be successful  or profitable immediately, But we have to keep keeping on and never giving up. 

Ok I know some of you are already saying, "ok Entina, I agree with you on having other ways to make money but babe what else should I do." I am sure before you got into the university,While you were there or when you were searching for a white collar job,  you had a few things you were passionate about. Some of the guys were good at graphics and animations, some were even good at writing short stories and movies scripts or fixing of electrical gadgets. You can actually create a career from these passion and carve a niche for yourself. The ladies are mostly passionate about hairstyling, catering, sewing, knitting, singing, modelling, acting. There is nothing wrong in sewing weekends or on demand and making money by  the side. If sewing alone would be time consuming, you can hire qualified hands and do it part time. That way you are working and still making extra cash.

Now for those of us who Want to learn something  new or start a career of our own this year, here are a few ideas. 

1. Catering, is something you should  do if you are passionate about cooking or baking. You can either work from home and supply your products or hAve a business place where you offer your services daily. Food business is good business any day anytime. Give people what they yearn for and stand out.

2. Bridals includes  makeover, bridal shower & wedding planning. This Is one industry  that  would never perish. As long  as people Keep falling in love,  there would be a wedding each Saturday to cater for and plan. Ladies and guys can learn makeover, decorations and Much more.

3. Trading is something  almost everyone has been involved in, either you have sold something for a relative or you have tried mobile business once but it's something familiar to us. People sell items from clothes to accessories and a whole lot of others. ENTREPRENEURS are born mostly from trading because even the service providers still get involved in trading and marketing of their products. Start small by doing a market survey and selling in little quantity till you are sure of what is in high demand But remember CREDIT is the greatest enemy of mobile business. Shine your eyes and remember business grows when friends and family members pay for services rendered. Even if you have to sell on credit, know those who Are credit worthy and never sell more than quarter of the amount of your capital On credit.  

4. Passion is everything and the highest earning business in the world now. Talent  is passion and skills is passion. Our musicians and actors make more money lately than even some medical doctors. They sign endorsement deals daily like it is going out of style. They drive The flashiest cars and live in the most luxurious  apartments. Blogging and online careers are turning people to household names. changing lives and touching people you don't even know from the comfort of your home is everything. "Make your passion your profession." People are changing lives, building empires, making money from their phone/tablets/ computers and changing the world with WIFI ( the same one you are using to download movies and monitor the lives of people on instagram). Turn your passion into a hustle and motivate others.

5. Handwork is equal to a full stomach. No man (woman) Who Is skilled ever complained of hunger. Learn a skill today and build an empire with it. Tailoring, Photography/ videography,  makeover, catering, hairstyling, welding, carpentry, mechanical/ electrical skill and whole lot of others. They are ways you can create a constant source of income for yourself and still mentor others.

6. Learn, learn and keep learning. As  long as you Are alive, learning should be a constant thing. You can learn a new language, a professional course, visit a life coach or read self motivational books to help you increase your knowledge and raise you higher in your career. Why do I need to do that someone may ask Me.  Take Sophia for instance, while she was searching for a job After graduating from the university,  she decided to become bilingual.  She settled for French language and dedicated some months to learn,  the road was not easy but she remained dedicated. Friends and family tried to dissuade her but she remained steadfast. Two years after her programme and a year after getting a job, the company she works in gets a juicy deal with a French company but no one in her organisation knows beyond the regular "bonjour" and her boss has a box full of french mails he can't even reply to, then comes Angel Sophia to the rescue.  Sophia helped her boss, travelled with him and other executives to France and even got promoted higher than even others she met in the company. Sophia chose to learn a new language but you could go for HSE  or any other professional  course to improve yourself. Get a bachelor's degree ( 1st or 2nd degree) , it is never too late to return to school and get an education. Go for Your masters and doctorate, keep moving higher.

It is a new year so give your best and your all. Let your passion and desire to be successful wake you up before 5Am and let it keep your brain burning with new ideas. Let your dream be more important than your sleep, don't mind those laughing at you because they would want to grind with you tomorrow. Invest in yourself and remember that you are never too young to start building an empire and never  too old to chase a dream. Whatever you do, be prayerful and committed  to God. Well ponder on my question below and you if you feel like talking or exchanging ideas, leave a comment below or send an email to entyna90@gmail.com. 

If you were in the same place last year, do you want to say the same thing next year??????

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