Relationship Zone: When The Clock Starts Ticking!

Kids are blessings from God and a joy to those who have them. Our first mission on earth is to multiply it and as the scriptures says, in Genesis 1: 22, " Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth..... So each day,we should live according to God's expectations. I have come across a lot of young women who dread having kids in their forties and would do anything to start popping them out now. In our society, when a woman is past 30 or in your late 20s, friends and family members start asking when you are walking down the aisle. Some would even make it look like you are to be blamed for being single or you have some sort of ancestral curse upon your head. It gets so ugly that when a younger sibling or relative is getting married theY make hurtful remarks about your status.

I think getting married is a personal decision and if or when you choose to do It,  then it should concern nobody. Yes you read right, if you choose to do it. Not everyone wants to get married and i believe their personal decisions should be respected. Some people have been so messed up that they would live alone than have another person share in their messed up life (topic for another day). 

I can say i know what it feels like to desire the love and comfort of a second half. Having a friend to share your world with and bearing the fruits of that love. I have been blessed with great friends and family members who openly air their views on late marriage and their fear for the ticking clock. They are all good guys and ladies but still they have not been lucky in their search. Some of the guys have become what is called MAGA because girls keep using them for financial gains and neglecting their emotions. This has lead the guys to become PLAYBOYS thereby,  hurting good girls in the process. The good girls in turn are scared to love and would rather remain single or double or even triple date to avoid any heartbreak. Love is now a word in the pages of a romance novel and not a feeling we share. 

My darling, you are too beautiful to be mocked or depressed over being single. Take a stand today to live a colourful life. Follow some of these few steps to living your life to the fullest while you try to meet your life partner;

1. Make/ shave your hair in a style that suits your face. Look sharp, clean and attractive always. 

2. Join a social or sports club. 

3. Attend social events where young people would be present. 

4. Join a group in church / mosque. 

5. Learn a new language or start a professional course. Invest in yourself and upgrade to a higher/ more desirable level.

6. Join online friendship/ dating sites and meet new singles.

7. Maintain a good dress sense and Keep fit. 

8. Be friendly and approachable, stop wearing a frown and scaring off prospective dates. Stop showing everyone how depressed you are about your current situation. Try to avoid places and people that would dampen your spirit. Live a happy life.

9. Read self-help,  inspirational & emotional books and visit websites/ blogs. They would help you Make good use of your singlehood and prepare you for a future relationship. 

10. Last but certainly not the least, pray to God. He alone sees your heart and knows your pains. Prayer is the key to every challenge in life. 

If you try these few steps, you woud discover how interesting your life has turned out to be in a short while. You would be in a blissful state that not even the backlash & mocking from people would make you cry or get mad. The clock would tick but You would not notice it because God would send you that adorable man/woman you have been praying for and all your years of waiting would be rewarded. God sometimes saves The best for last, so don't let the ticking of the clock kill your swag. I believe 2016 would not come to an end without that special someone coming into your life. Stay afloat and keep smiling. 

I love you and wish you nothing but the best in your search.