Émotions Déchaînées (Unchained emotions): When Désolé Is Not Enough To Save Your Amor!!!

Love means amor in french and désolé means sorry. Everyone who has ever fallen in love knows love is pain and pain is love. You can never escape being hurt or say I'm sorry when you are in love because they all go together hand in hand. We can never be too careful or escape hurting someone we love. Today we would be talking about why we hurt a corazón (means heart in Spanish ) that loves us and why we also don't forgive a loved one Who does. 

Love is beautiful and the most perfect gift any couple can share. You meet this amazing young woman who is caring, loving and devoted. Weekends when she visits, she helps you with chores and coOKs the most tasty meals. She would give Kim K a run for her money when it comes to looks and style, let's  not even mention her porn star bedroom skills. Walla!  you are telling everyone this is your wifeY and how lucky you are to have this angel. You keep yelling "meet my wife" whenever you are out together and showing her off. Few months after, curiosity leads you to go through her phone and that is when your world comes crashing. You discovered your perfect woman was not that perfect after all and like everyone of us, she has BAGGAGE. You can't get over the fact that there is a dude somewhere in a different city she is constantly chatting with and an ex who she is still trying to get over (still texting her). This is when You know if Amor is greater than désolé. 

Guadalupe grew up in a christian home with parents who were missionaries. After travelling round the world with her parents, she got accustomed to different traditions and lifestyle. After she turned 18, she relocated back to Canada Where she was born and got into the university, graduated with a first class in Information technology. Immediately after graduation, a top IT firm offered her a job with a juicy salary. When the firm decided to open a branch in Nigeria, Guadalupe was sent to head the place. Apart from the fact that her parents were Nigerians and she Was well travelled, Lupe Was the perfect choice. After being in Nigeria for two years, while jogging one early morning in her estate, she sprained her ankle and was in severe pains. All she could do was sit on the sidewalk and pray for help as she wriggled in pains. KevWe a young doctor was just going home from work after being at work all night, saw her and pulled over to help this Damsel in distress. After taking her home and soothing her pains, they exchanged contact and gradually became great friends. Before you could say AMOR, they had walked down the aisle. After 6 years of marriage and 6 kids (A son & A daughter), One morning Lupe wakes up to the cry of a child at the gate, Ese their neighbour's maid and her family. To cut the whole story short, Perfect KevWe had gotten a girl barely 19 years old pregnant and it had blown out of proportion when he abandoned her because she wanted to be his second wife. Guadalupe was new to The betrayal of a loved one. Her dad had been upright so were the missionaries she grew up with and her hubby had seem like a Perfect man too but what went wrong, why did he have to cheat and even stoop so low to date a maid, all these questions lead her straight to the hospital and lead to a miscarriage. This is when you have to know if Amor is greater and désolé is enough.

"I am sorry is all that i can say", this would be the song on the lips of Kim K lookalike and KevWe.  They would cry, beg and even have friends & family intercede on their behalf. This is when their second half has to sit and weigh their options. Should i forgive and reconcile; forgive and move on or never forgive and keep hating. In life we should know no one is perfect and we should love each day expecting to be hurt. We are quick to judge and caste stones on offenders and never Really finding the reason for their betrayal.

Kim k's lookalike had the honour of telling me her story. Like most ladies, she had fallen in love while in the university and lost her innocence to a Man who she thought the world of, Both of their families met and had even fixed a date when Mr L wakes up and tells her she is not good enough for him. He settles for an older and richer lady, thereby turning her world upside down. After getting over the pains, she decided never to put all her eggs in one basket. Even after meeting her new man, she decided to still keep another in a different city just in case things turn sour. It had taken him going through her phone and telling her off for her to realise it was wrong to play games with matters of the heart. 

Kevwe on the other hand had tried on several occasions to get his wife's attention. Lupe was always too tired or busy to cook. Lovemaking Was off the table for 2 months or more sometimes because wifeY was too tired. One day Ese's boss who is Kevwe's friend and their next door neighbour had sent his maid to give his sick friend and his kids some food since mummy was not home. It went on like this with Ese helping out in the house and one day her brewing friendship with Kevwe ( her Delta uncle) lead to wild games. Yes he should have been more careful but he was also not entirely at fault. 

Love is like an egg that should be handled with care, just one crack if not handled with care can lead to The destruction. I try not judge anyone when it comes to personal choices because I myself have made mistakes, hurt others and also messed up friendships.  I always tell anyone who complains about the flaws or betrayal of a loved to first and foremost weigh the good and bad side of the person. Think about the good things they have done for you and then the special attributes they possess. Next you think about their bad sides and my darling, if the good is more than the bad they have a pass mark.

Afterwards, talk to you erring partner and find out if they are willing to change, make amends and repent from their wrong ways. Ask about the future of your union and how they plan to make things rosy Again.  If this fella/babe is stammering or stuttering, know that they are still the same and not worth the sacrifice. You could either let them back in or give them time to work on themselves. Like I said in the beginning, sometimes désolé is not enough to save amor. Hearts would get broken and tears flow freely just to get the love and union you deserve. No relationship is perfect and it takes a brave heart to forgive a person who loves you. 

Wish you all the best in your relationship! 

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