Wednesday 24 December 2014

Have A Magical Christmas Eve


Hello everyone, how have you all been? I am very very very sorry for being inactive for a long time. I have been going through a phase but let me not bore you. I promise to be back fully in january. You are always in my heart and i promise you all a more informative, inspiring and educative blog come 2015. 


I wish you a beautiful christmas eve celebration and please stay safe. I pray God grants the wishes of those praying for a christmas miracle. Love you all xoxo.


Monday 10 November 2014

Heartbreaking: Preacher Myles Munroe, Wife and Daughter Killed In A Plane Crash



Life is indeed nothing but a dream and finding out about the death of an great and inspiring man of God Myles Munroe is still something i can not get over. 



According to reports, Myles Munroe, his wife Ruth and daughter Charisa and 6 others died in a plane crash hours ago. The plane, a Lear LEA executive jet, reportedly struck a crane at the Grand Bahama Ship Yard, exploding on impact and crashing into the ground near a junkyard area.
The Bahamas Ministry of Transport and Aviation reported that the Lear 36 executive jet departed the Lynden Pindling International Airport (LPIA) in Nassau, Bahamas at 4:07PM for the Grand Bahama International Airport, a privately owned international airport in Freeport, Bahamas with nine people on board.


According to Abc News, During his professional career, Munroe traveled to more than 100 countries and wrote dozens of books. His speeches addressed personal leadership, family structure, spiritual balance and principles.

He discussed purpose in a 2003 speech.

“You weren’t born just to live a life and to die, you were born to accomplish something specifically,” he said. “Matter of fact, success is making it to the end of your purpose, that is success. ... Success is not just existing, success is making it to the end of why you were born.”

He also discussed the human lifespan and making the most of one’s life.

“The value of life is not in its duration, but in its donation. You are not important because of how long you live, you are important because of how effective you live. And most people are concerned about growing old rather than being effective,” he said in 2003. “The people who have impacted the world didn’t live long. Martin Luther King. John F. Kennedy. These people who impact the world were not old people, but they lived so effectively that we cannot erase them from history.”


They leave behind a son Chairo Myles Jr Munroe. 

May the souls of the departed rest in peace! 

Wednesday 5 November 2014

Weird! Kim Kardashian Spotted With Scary Bleached Barely There Eyebrows


I am definitely not a fan of this look, prefer Kimmy Cakes dark eye brows any day any time #hehehe.

Kim sure looked like a fairy when she attend her sister Kendall Jenner's 19th birthday party. 
“About last night… #KendallsBDayParty #DontBeScaredOfMyBleachedBrows #ItsForAPhotoShoot,” Kim captioned the photo she took with model Cara Delevingne on instagram. 

Kelly Rowland Becomes A Mom And Welcomes A Son



Singer Kelly Rowland and her husband Tim Witherspoon welcomed their first child yesterday. The lil man Titan Jewell Witherspoon was delivered at 1.30pm and weighed 7.5lbs.


“We are thrilled to announce that today we are the proud parents of our first son.We are blessed to report everyone is healthy and happy!” Kelly Rowland said in a press statement. 

Congrats to the gorgeous new mom! 

Monday 3 November 2014

Oops: Tiny Harris (Rapper T.I's Wife) Changes Her Eye Colour


          Brown eyed Tiny before the surgery
Rapper T.I's wife and reality television star Tiny Harris, has undergone a very delicate cosmetic surgery. Tiny changed her eyes colour from brown to ice grey using eye implants.


The surgery was done in Africa because it is illegal  in the United states because of the after effects. In some cases it has led to glaucoma, blindness, cataracts and bleeding of the eyes. 



The star of T.I and Tiny family hustle took to instagram to show the world her new look and express her excitement. 
"'Huge thanks to the incredible doctor(s) for the amazing experience and for making my dream come true! I hated wearing contacts just for the color and it made my vision blurry!' 

'Blessed to say my vision is #perfect after my #ice-gray implants! Special thanks to the #Brightocular staff for ALL that you've done to make this process happen, you're amaZing & thank you to the hospital's staff for your exceptional customer service as well‼️' She added by saying 'Of course any procedure has potential risks but no one has gone blind with brightocular and the success rate has been close to 100%.'


When asked during her interview on Good morning America about her husband's reaction, she said he wasn't on board at first but now, 'He loves them. He's OK with them as long as they're healthy and I'm not having any problems.'

I hope she takes it easy with cosmetic surgery #sealedlips.

Emir Ado Bayero’s Mistress, ‘Abandoned’ By Late Monarch’s Family, Threatens Suicide



“I have no shelter over my head, my children hardly eat and they are not even in school like their peers,” the 48-year-old woman lamented.
Sullen and distraught, and her voice trembling, Hauwa Momoh, despite her affiliation with two royal families, appears to be experiencing hell. She believes the suffering had now intensified to a level she can no longer bear.
Besides being the daughter of a former senior traditional ruler in Edo State, the Otaru of Auchi, Ms. Momoh was also the mistress of the immediate past Emir of Kano, Ado Bayero, for nearly three decades, in a lengthy but secret affair with one of Nigeria’s most influential traditional rulers.
With four wives already – maximum for a Muslim man – Mr. Bayero also maintained intimate relationship with a number of other women not married to him, Ms. Momoh told PREMIUM TIMES recently.
She said at least 16 of the women were known, and she was one of the lot.
Her affair, lasting 30 years, yielded two children, and the emir accepted and took care of them until his death in June, Ms. Momoh said.
Now she said she is prepared to end her life and her children’s after the emir’s family allegedly left her and her children homeless, and shut off all avenues of support she hitherto received for herself and children.
Ms. Momoh has been in touch with PREMIUM TIMES for weeks, asking this paper to help prevail on late Ado Bayero’s family to assist her children. She describes the family as very wealthy and spoke of the late emir as a kind, generous and pleasant man who provided all she needed and gave her family the best of treatments while he was alive.
She said since the Emir died, life has been hellish for her and her children. She begs to feed herself and children today, and has no support or shelter, she said.
After PREMIUM TIMES began investigating her claim, reaching out to the late emir’s family, Ms. Momoh told this paper she was sent N250, 000 from Kano with a request to stay off the media. The money lasted two days as it could not sustain the lifestyle set for her by the emir while alive, she said.
Ms. Momoh said she was promised another N2 million as settlement, but she has dismissed that as too meagre, given her current needs, taste and the family’s wealth.
Ms Momoh wouldn’t say why she has never worked to earn money, and why she depended entirely on the late Emir for handouts for three decades.
She also did not say why she did not return to school after she gave birth to her daughter.
She only said Emir Bayero kept promising to help her set up a business until he took ill and passed away.
Ado Bayero’s family declined to speak formally to PREMIUM TIMES on the case, despite repeated requests for comments and clarifications. Our reporters telephoned, and sent them text messages for weeks, but they did not respond. We also got high-level sources in the Kano Emirate to appeal to them to speak to this newspaper on the matter. At some points, they promised to get in touch, but failed to do so.
University Affair
As the Emir of Kano for more than 50 years, Ado Bayero was only third to the Sultan of Sokoto and the Emir of Gwandu in prominence in the perking order of northern Nigeria’s traditional rulers. He was also one of Nigeria’s most influential personalities.
Beyond his royal and religious influence, Ado Bayero was also an astute businessman with investments spanning almost all sectors of the Nigerian economy and even beyond, his associates say. He is believed to have left behind a lot of wealth.
He left behind at least four wives, 60 children and at least 16 concubines, Ms. Momoh told PREMIUM TIMES.
Ms. Momoh’s relationship with Emir Bayero began in 1984. Her father, the late Otaru of Auchi, Ahmed Guruza Momoh, was Mr. Bayero’s friend, Ms. Momoh said.
She said the Kano Emir began to date her when her father requested the late Emir Bayero to help her secure admission into Bayero University Kano [BUK], named after the emir himself.
“The relationship started back as 1984 when my father referred me to him, to help me gain admission into BUK. I have always wanted to study in BUK,” Ms. Momoh told PREMIUM TIMES, her voice burdened.
But instead of an admission into BUK, Ms. Momoh became pregnant for the Emir in 1986.
“I found out I was pregnant when in 1986 I was in London, and as I got back I told him I was pregnant for him, he then said we will get married after I put to bed because Islamically it’s wrong to marry someone who is pregnant, ” she narrated.
Ms. Momoh travelled back to Auchi to break the news to her father. The shocked chief sent her back to the emir, and vowed she would not be allowed to have her baby in his house without marriage.
Fifteen years later, a second child, a boy, arrived. She did not return to school and appears never to have been in any gainful employment.
Ms. Momoh said at all times, they were all well taken care of by the late emir.
“I stayed in Kano for 32 years, the Emir was very nice to me while he was alive, he took care of me and our two children, and he gave us money, he was indeed a nice man before he died,” she said.
After the emir took ill, communication slowed between him and his mistress. Soon, Ms. Momoh’s children became sick and would not respond to treatment, forcing their mother to relocate to Lagos, she said.
“I was not able to see the Emir for one year as he fell ill, at the same time my children were also sick so I had to relocate to Lagos for further and better treatment. I and my children stayed in Lagos in my friends place till my children got better,” she explained.
Two weeks before Mr. Bayero died, Ms. Momoh travelled to see him in Kano. While there, she said she realized her home in Kano had been vandalized and all her properties were stolen, leaving the house empty.
When she eventually met the emir, the traditional ruler, she said, promised to take care of her and children, promised them shelter and directed one of his sons, Nasir, to ensure that was done.
“Nasir knew us very well. In fact, he used to come and give us money for upkeep when his father was alive,” Ms. Momoh explained.
That warm relationship between her and Nasir broke down after the emir’s death.
Now, Ms. Momoh blames Nasir and another of the late emir’s son, Aminu, for her troubles, saying they refused to carry out their father’s directive.
As her suffering and that of her children worsened, she said she met Nasir on several occassions, to convey to him how desperate she needed help. The two sons promised to get back to her, but never did.
Ms. Momoh said today her children are no longer in school, as they roam the country looking for shelter. She is currently in Abuja squatting with a friend and struggling to survive.
“I almost slept at the central Mosque in Abuja, I have no savings, I have no roof over my head, my first daughter is due for the university but she is with me, my second son has been out of school for over a year now. We find it very difficult to eat. And all this became worse after the Emir died,” She explained.
On Friday, after turning down the N2million she was offered, Ms. Momoh said she and her children had agreed to commit suicide if no help came by the weekend.
“Just in case we don’t make it to Monday, tell our story,” she urged PREMIUM TIMES.
-Premiumtimeng.com

Sunday 2 November 2014

Relationship Zone: How To Upgrade A Situationship (Find Out If You Are In A Relationship Or Situationship)



Q: I don’t know what we are. I’m waiting on him to tell me. 

We’re working on us. It’s not official, but we only talk to each other. 

A: What are things bitches in Situationships say?


Women fought to gain so many rights in the 20th century only to see 21st century women turn right around and give up one of their most important rights, the ability to demand an exclusive relationship. If a man tells you he doesn’t want anything serious, acts as if he doesn’t want anything serious, or looks like a nigga you used to fuck that didn’t want anything serious, then you follow his lead and fit into the box he wants to put you in. He doesn’t want a traditional relationship, you do, but you can’t look thirsty, so you pretend to be cool with being unofficial while still giving this man all the official benefits. Huh??? I always hear, “I didn’t want anything serious either, but it just happened.” OMG, you mean to tell me three months of spending every day talking to a person resulted in deep romantic feelings!? No, that’s impossible, how can that be when you said that wasn’t what you wanted. Because Science, dumb ass! Women want love, and to deny that part of your DNA so you can try to keep a man that is still playing the field in your life, is idiotic and demeaning.

A situationship is a relationship without a label where two people are more than platonic friends, but haven’t committed to being anything official for various reasons. What’s the difference between a situationship and just taking it slow with someone you want to eventually commit to? Treatment. Choice. Time Elapsed. A man who Treats you like a girlfriend, fucks you like a girlfriend, but doesn’t want to give you the title or commit to anything serious has no excuse for not committing. He’s using the lack of label as a loophole so he can exit whenever he wants. That’s like someone saying they don’t have a job because they don’t want to pay the IRS, but they wake up at 8am, got to the mall, pull an 8 hour shift, and collect a check at the end of the week. The IRS would call him out like, “You just put 40hours in, you’re employed my nigga, pay up!” Weak women don’t call men out, they will let a nigga call a duck a horse, and just nod their head because they don’t want to lose the relationship they’re in even if it’s a sham.


 Who made the Choice that your relationship is TBD? Most likely it was the man. He moved in silence, courted you as if he wanted something more, fucked you, and after the 2nd time he put his hand in the cookie jar, you asked, “So what are we?” Like most men who wanted to lease and not buy, he replied, “We’ll figure that out later, let’s not ruin this” and you accepted that. A man who makes the Choice for you that you should be in a “wait and see” exclusive but unofficial relationship isn’t a “bitch ass nigga,” he’s a BOSS because he just told you what it’s going to be and you took those orders like a worker. If it’s your Choice to be “friends” and not make things serious, then you’re in control… but only if you MEAN it. Most of the women who I talk to hide behind, “I don’t want serious” out of necessity because they have been burnt before when they come out and say they want love.

Finally we have Time Elapsed. I’m going to say this for the last time, and I don’t care what basic bitch rational you use to try and deny this because I don’t believe, I know this is true—If you’ve dated, talked to, or have been fucking a man for more than 7 weeks and he hasn’t tried to snatch you up—you’re not taking it slow, you’re in a situationship. You’re a Placeholder, a Hobby, a Temporary Pussy while he scouts for a Permanent Wifey. The greatest lie the devil ever told was, “I don’t know what I want.” All men know what they want! They may not be able to write it down or express it verbally, but all men speak with actions. If all I am willing to do is chill and fuck you, I don’t want you. If I chill, fuck you, and handcuff myself to you as my woman, I want you. How hard is that to comprehend? Most women get the first two and act as if they’re winning and become content. Why be loyal to the potential of a man becoming something more in the future when you can Spartan Up and get a man that wants more right now? There’s a difference between being a Teairra Mari and being a Beyoncé Carter, it’s called self-respect.


What does a man mean when he says, “I’m not ready for a relationship” or “I’m not looking for anything serious” It means he left off the words, “With You!” He doesn’t want to slow down or be handcuffed because you aren’t who he pictured being handcuffed to. The fact that he is telling you that he doesn’t want anything serious OR accepting the fact that you told him you weren’t ready for anything serious, means that he doesn’t think you’re special. I get it, he says all the right things, he looks out for you, he pays for dates, and his mother loves you, but none of that matters if he’s not willing to go all in emotionally and claim you. If you looked and acted the way that he wanted, that dude would move a fucking mountain to lock you down. If you talked in a way that inspired him, he would ignore your demand of “I don’t want a boyfriend” and say, “Fuck that. You are mine.” Kings go to war for Queens, they don’t wait around for some other man to snatch her up. You don’t have a King that will die for you, you have a nigga you talk to. Difference. You’re not yet a Queen that demands respect, you’re a bitch that accepts Come Over & Chill dates. Difference. When a man wants a woman there is no hesitation, no excuses, no wrong time, no long distance, and no financial limitations that will keep him from scooping up something he sees as special. Therefore, if a man is fixing his mouth to tell you he’s Not Sure or playing his position while your scared ass pretends that you don’t want love, then he doesn’t fuck with you. Facts!


Rules of a Situationship


You Can’t Demand Shit: You can ask, you can suggest, you can get passive aggressive and drop hints, but he knows that he isn’t your man and can’t be held up to relationship standards. You will be constantly frustrated, but in the end you will have to swallow your emotions because you allowed yourself to be suckered into this exploitive powerless type of relationship.

You Aren’t Going To Be Upgraded: Bae, let’s take it slow. Bae, you know I’m focused on this money. Bae, give me a month. The word of the day is “Naive”. You will wait… wait some more… and then read some basic ass internet fact about how all of these celebrities waited too. Lies help you sleep, but eventually you have to wake up, and when you do you’ll be back to waiting for a man that doesn’t want you.

You Will Share Dick: You aren’t going to sleep with anyone else during this fake relationship, and that’s noble, but you’re still going to have multiple partners because the man you’re waiting for is still sampling other vaginas. You are default pussy, not trophy pussy, so when you get those calls at 3am, it’s only because the bad bitches clowned him and sent him back to you. You’re not good enough to make him curve his appetite for thot box, and never will be.

He Will Still Lie: You thought this would make you two friends who openly share everything. Ha! Men know that women are jealous, so unless you’re bisexual and helping him bed other women, he’s going to tell you what you want to hear as opposed to the truth because he knows that you still really want to be with him. Knowing that he’s actively hunting someone else will hurt you, so lies are mandatory.

The Word “Love” Will Lose All Meaning: You will hear, “I love you.” More than you’ve heard in your real relationship. What man doesn’t love cheap pussy? Real love comes equipped with actions that prove it, the fact that he can’t even make it official tells you all you need to know about his kind of love.


The Situationship Trap


The Basic Bitch Situationship: Here you are, Miss Typical who thinks she’s Miss Unique because an ex-boyfriend once called you the best he ever had and your Grandmother said she had a dream that you became some important person blah blah blah. Your potential is on a 100 but your actual life is on 30. You are filled with fake confidence, and your results don’t match the shit you talk. Take Miss Typical out to a bar and watch as she hides behind her friends, side eyeing men who she would never have the nerve to talk to, and frowning her face up at the Hos that go for what they want as if she couldn’t pull off those same tactics if she had the balls. Like any mediocre chick in a tight dress, Miss Typical will eventually get pulled by some random nigga that she didn’t even notice because he’s not even “that cute,” but because she is lonely, she’ll take his number.


Now this is where men have the advantage. Lonely bitches agree to any kind of date because they live by the motto “It’s whatever.” You trying to see me tomorrow after work—it’s whatever. You trying to go back to the crib and kick it—it’s whatever. Can I just put the tip in—it’s whatever. Common sense tells you that nobody is “whatever” every human being either wants something or doesn’t want something. The reason this Basica is talking about “whatever” is because she doesn’t know how to react around a man. Her life choices have damaged her and left her a scared little girl who uses apathy as a defense mechanism. She thinks if she says, “No you can’t come see me, but you can take me out this weekend when I’m free to see a movie,” that man will stop calling her. Miss Typical is so afraid of expressing herself that she becomes a puppet; another in a line of foundation face, drawn on eyebrow, exposed enclosure having girls whose only personality traits are giggling, sassing, and eye-rolling. Men know after one conversation if you’re a “whatever” girl because they treat you like whatever. He won’t tell you the first week that he’s not looking for anything serious, he’ll wait until either he smashes you or he’s at least three weeks into mindfucking you, and then drop that bomb. Here’s the genius of man. A guy will tell you he doesn’t want you, but say it in a way that makes you think that he wishes he could want you. For example, “You know how I feel about you, and if I was working and had the time to focus on you instead of my goals, you know we would be together.” That’s all bullshit, but it’s the type of bullshit that hits the one thing basic bitches love more than selfie likes—her want to be wanted.


The Long Distance Situationship: Let’s take Miss Typical and put her in another type of situationship, the one where you’re hundreds or thousands of miles away. Long distance relationships only work 10% of the time, because it requires ONE thing—total dedication from both parties. To be fair, many women are loyal and can do without sex for stretches and will sacrifice money and time to fly or drive out. Men on the other hand rarely have the desire to not fuck something else nor do they want to be flying across country unless that bond has already been established before the long distance started.

Situationships and Long Distances don’t mix. The LDS (Long Distance Situationship) is doomed from the jump, because you’re trying to be loyal to a person that isn’t yours. Miss Typical can’t find a good man in her city and is tired of waiting around, finally she does meet a man, a friend of her cousin who is only in town for a few days. Miss Typical likes the fact that she doesn’t have to see this guy again and this gives her the confidence to go YOLO. Unlike normal local niggas, she can Spartan Up and go for him, because the excitement of him not being around after a few days makes it less scary. Miss Typical has come out of her shell, leads with her personality instead of her pussy, and this man is floored by her and wants to keep talking. She doesn’t have any local dick, so why not? Fast forward a few months, she could have used the same Spartan technique to pull more men the same way she pulled the LD guy, but she got comfortable with the potential of one man. Now, all she does is call this man, think about him, and have skype sex with him. It doesn’t take Batman to deduct that this bitch is sprung.


How does this Long Distance Dick feel about her? She’s a hobby. Unlike a real girlfriend he can choose not to pick up that phone and give the excuse “I was sleeping” when really he was talking to Brenda with the big ass down the street. She can’t pressure him to come see her, because it’s not a real relationship, they are only friends—but he can say, “You’re free to come anytime, baby.” For a man, a Long Distance Situationship is gold. You have a girl that isn’t around to annoy you with wanting dates. You have a girl that is willing to fly herself out or pay half her ticket price to come fuck you. You have a girl that will wake up out of her sleep to help you jerk off, even though she’s not horny and has to get up in a few hours for work. Emotionally speaking, you also have a girl who is there to listen to you vent about your fucked up life. BUT! In addition to this remote boo, you are still pulling various women in your city. For women a Long Distance man feels like a dream that will come true once he gets himself right or she gets herself right, because when you visit someone you only get to see the paradise of part-time. Miss Typical may get suspicious that he’s messing with other women, and maybe the excuse of, “I would be with you, but it’s the distance,” doesn’t sound right after a year. However, she wants to believe in that dream so she lets shit slide, because it’s not her man officially and she’s getting half of what she wants emotionally, and half is better than none. The double standard is one that women create for themselves during a LDS, it’s not your man but you act like it is your man. This isn’t something that the man asked you to do, but you do it out of guilt because you would rather be loyal to a fantasy than continue dating in reality! You don’t go out, you don’t even flirt with niggas on the internet, and you even tell your friends that it’s serious. In the end, once you don’t have any more bread to fly yourself out, or he finds a local girl that replaces you as his outlet, the calls will stop and you’ll be left looking like a sucker. All those months spent loving someone who never loved you enough to say, “fuck the distance, you’re my girlfriend, and we’re going to make this work.”


The On/Off Situationship: Stay in a woman’s life long enough for her to get used to you, and she’ll drop all standards. Ex-boyfriends or random dudes that have kept in contact over the years are the best at pulling off situationships because they sell their dick better than Timeshare companies. Miss Typical will think that her history with a guy protects her from being hurt. You forget to take into account that the reason you broke up with this dude or why you two never became official back then was because there was some incompatibility. You ignore that huge red flag because you are bored and tired of looking for love. You just want a familiar dick that won’t make your sleep number go up, and the ability to chill with someone you don’t have to worry about impressing.

These type of situationships work really well for the first month or two because it is exactly what you say it is. Do you know why this is? Because any man, no matter how fucked up he is, will be on his best behavior to insure that you don’t change your mind about the arrangement. However, after he’s fucked you several times and has gotten comfortable again, he can drop the act and be the asshole he is normally. That means, he no longer comes running when you call, he doesn’t pick up on the first ring or respond back to your texts as fast as he used to, and he’s back to lying about where he’s going to be and why he can’t see you. He didn’t change up, he changed back! Every man knows when he’s hooked a woman because her temper becomes short and her behavior out of the ordinary. The moment you argue over something dumb, when you used to laugh it off—hooked. The moment when you call us late at night instead of waiting for our call—hooked. When you start suggesting we go out, when it was only supposed to be a non-serious chill and fuck relationship—hooked.

Miss Typical will drive herself crazy trying to treat a nigga that’s not her boyfriend like he is, and the man will just distance himself more and more because he wasn’t lying when he said he didn’t want anything serious (with her). These things end two ways, either the woman has had enough and cuts him off or the man gets a real girlfriend who forces him to cut her off. Either way, within a year Miss Typical will get a call from that same dude like, “We was having fun, til you started tripping. Let’s hang out like old times.” And then they are on again… repeating that basic ass cycle once more.


The Forced Official Situationship: 
Finally we have the most common type of situationship, the one where a girl will finally put her foot down and demand a relationship. Miss Typical has had enough and she confronts this guy saying she wants to be serious. To her surprise, the guy says, “okay.” Here’s where niggas show their Supervillain IQ: A week after this talk, nothing changes. Okay, maybe you get to go to a movie or get taken to Cheesecake Factory, but in terms of the real shit– nada. Calling him your boyfriend will not make him behave like a boyfriend! The spending time, the acting like he gives a fuck, the being accountable, it’s the same song and dance as before. After a month of this you’re even more stressed because now you have a boyfriend who doesn’t give a fuck as opposed to a dude you just fuck who isn’t supposed to give a fuck. Miss Typical will come to the rude awakening that you can’t put a collar on a dog and expect it to now stay in the house.

Why does this happen? Men don’t like being forced to do shit by a woman. As a man, I’ll listen to your demands, but if I don’t fuck with you, respect you, or love you I’m not going to take those things serious. Real relationships don’t start with an ultimatum. A man chooses the woman he wants to be with on his own because he can’t imagine not having someone like that as his partner. When you force a situationship guy to become a relationship guy, you don’t change his way of treating you. He still sees you as a placeholder, and he will continue to treat you like that because he doesn’t respect you enough to do the things boyfriends typically do.

Why would a man who doesn’t want you agree to be official? Men do not like hurting the feelings of women, most would rather disappear than tell you you’re wack, but when confronted with an ultimatum when they’re comfortable, a man will do what comes natural—lie! You want a relationship, we’re in the relationship, now shut up, and bend over. Forcing a man will not result in a real transformation. Yeah we go together, but what does that mean? I’m supposed to answer my phone every time? I have to check in when I’m out late? I can’t fuck Tiffany? Good luck with that. This forced boyfriend is still playing by his rules, and in order to not be the bad guy this is what he will do within the following weeks: He will be an asshole, and you will get soooo frustrated and argue that, “Men in relationships need to do blah blah blah. I need you to step up!” The moment you come at his neck, this nigga will do exactly what he planned on doing all along, “See, this is why I told you I didn’t want anything serious!” Things were better before he was your official man, and he’s right. You two will break up, and he will continue fucking you with no strings attached without you ever asking for a relationship again. He gave you want he wanted, and it backfired on you—Noncommittal Niggas 1 – Thirsty Bitches 0. Just because you have a bond and connection, doesn’t mean that it will amplify into true love once you put a label on it.

How to Upgrade a Situationship


Did you forget that one of the rules is “You Aren’t Going to Be Upgraded?” That shit wasn’t a typo. Sure you may be one of the few that gets a temporary relationship and have to suffer through the trying to make it work stage for a year until it collapses, but that’s hardly a prize. Most likely that man who’s gotten the milk for free will simply reject the idea of being with you officially. That’s right, go and ask him to make changes right now, and most likely he will say, “I’m good,” and shatter your overblown ego. Your scared ass should have made those demands during the first few weeks, now you’re three months too late. You can’t win in a situationship because situationships weren’t created for women to win. Today’s men have evolved, they realize that Value Meal Women are so plentiful that there is no need to lie to these hoes like their Uncles did back in the 90’s. Today’s evolved men go hard at these #3’s, get the fast food pussy, maybe get a refill, and then discard them. As a result these Value Meal Women who have zero self-respect and confidence, have created a defense mechanism so they won’t be discarded. They agree to anything. These women feel any male affection is better than no male affection so they let these men know that they are okay with being Fast Food Pussy, so long as he sticks around as a customer. This isn’t about changing your mind after he grows on you or faking it until you make it. You’re in a situationship because that’s the only type of relationship you think you’re capable of getting a man to agree on. Where the fuck is your sense of worth?


Are you going to be a Spartan or a Value Meal? You aren’t a Spartan until you’re put to the test. The majority of the women claiming to be Queens and Bosses, get tested and end up bowing down to Dick for fear they’ll lose “Him.” Fuck a “him,” he should be more concerned with missing out on you. You’re the Spartan, which means you’re the only thing rare in a room full of well-done bitches! I saw some weak bitch meme about. “I’m only asking you what are we because I want to be clear before I let this other nigga take me out.” That is the most pitiful shit ever! You mean to tell me that you’re so powerful and so independent, yet you wait on a MAN TO TELL YOU what your relationship status is before you date another man? How am I more of a feminist than you and I have a dick? You don’t ask a man what you are, you tell him what you are! You don’t wait for him to get his shit together, he has to come with his shit together before he even calls your phone. If you want to be by yourself, you be by yourself for real, don’t play house and then get mad because the nigga reminded you it was all “play”. You can’t force a relationship on a man and you can’t sneak a relationship in, you need to communicate what it is that you want and say that shit with your outside voice!


Here’s a SECRET: When he tells you he’s not looking for what you’re looking for… you look elsewhere, because he’s being honest! I don’t care if all you meet are men who don’t want anything serious, you keep searching until you find one that does think of you as good enough to go against his bachelor instincts. Spartans set their bar high and don’t give a fuck how many men fail to reach it. Spartans aren’t in a rush for a relationship with any man, they are on a quest for a relationship with the right man. Pussy is Power, learn the tactics to refine that power and stop stumbling around getting exploited by men! For all the women reading this that are stressing over a man that’s not yours, don’t ask, “How can I get him to upgrade me,” ask, “When did I lose all self-respect for myself?” You weren’t forced at gunpoint, you weren’t tricked; you allowed yourself to be devalued by agreeing to be his “whatever” girl. Why the fuck would any woman agree to be leased by a man that doesn’t think she’s girlfriend pretty, girlfriend interesting, or girlfriend smart when she should be being pursued by men that want to own her flaws and all? Insecurity! No woman in a situationship is happy, she’s just comfortable. It’s not about upgrading the situationship, it’s about upgrading your mind so you will never again be the type of woman that thinks having half a boyfriend is cute or acceptable.

N.B. I bet you had a great time reading this post from L. Lambert a man who has inspired me positively. I also hope you just don't read but learn and carry out the advice from a brutally honest relationship counsellor #hehehe. You can also visit his page by clicking on this link http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/

Please leave your comments. 

Saturday 1 November 2014

Fashion Trend: Gingham Print



Hello everyone, Gingham print is back. This print became popular here in Nigeria because almost every nursery, primary and secondary school used it as their school uniform in the 90s and some still do till date. Most Nigerians know it as check material but the real name is 'Gingham Print'. 



        (The type of gingham printed leggings i got)


Year 2014 summer/ spring fashion trend saw this famous print coming back with top designers showcasing it on the runway. The high street fashion has also created various fashion items with it from gingham printed shirts, skirts, leggings, trousers, shoes, gowns, jackets and even underwear. The beautiful colours of gingham printed clothes makes it easy to pair. To avoid causing an eyesore and looking like a clown, pair them with a colour from the print or a neutral colour. 







I got myself a blue/white gingham printed leggings and i paired it a blue shirt, white shirt and black shirt on different occasions (sorry there wasn't anyone around to take a photo of me #wink). Love it or hate it, i see gingham prints holding it down till 2015 and beyond.





Rock on ladies & gentlemen and keep looking fabulous! 
Thanks for stopping by and please leave your comments. 
Please check out the Minipopup shopping section of the blog to buy lovely fashion items from various designers all over the world. 

Happy November Everyone


The year 2014 seems to be faster than the world's fastest man Usain Bolt. I remember when we were started the year and just within a twinkle of an eye it is almost over #hehehe. 


I pray all your heart desires and wishes for 2014 comes to past this month. I also pray God protects you and your loved ones. This november would be a month to remember for good. Remember to work harder towards achieving your goals and 2014 resolutions. 

Love you all and thanks for stopping by.

Wednesday 29 October 2014

EMUJOW MUSIC VIDEO SHOOT OUT IN 2015



The emujow video shoot featuring Shoggy Tosh, Shady Blue and Dunamis Reignz directed by award winning Video director, Femi Best Touch, shot at Addiscombe, London is to be released next year, 2015.






The all-day outdoor music video shoot which was Shoggy Tosh’s first was successfully shot by Director of Photography, Samuel Pearce and directed by Femi Best Touch. The various scenes had Shoggy Tosh waking up in a double bed in the forest, driving an auto mobile convertible with Shady Blue and two stunning models, Abi Adeshida (United Kingdom) and Lobna Hassanein (Egypt). The shoot featured DJ Boddy mixing his turntable gadgets to a stunningly dressed Shady Blue (award winning singer and song writer), Nigerian junior international footballer, Daniel Uchechi and Nollywood award winning Actor, Ikenna Obi. 






On set was also Folu Johnson (reowned Movie Director), Prince Oforji (a Nollywood actor), Olufemi Olubanjo, Antoria Lingard (Makeup artist), Aderonke Adeniran, Happiness Tosh & Tega Edward (all Photographers), Victoria Adeyemo and Orumatiases.




Shoggy’s emujow is to be released exclusively on 9th January 2015 on Ancient of Days TV in South Africa viewable on all smartphones (except blackberries) via the free downloadable app, UNITY; on blackberries via free app, OHBOX; via www.ancientofdays.com and in Africa on DSTV through the free channel bouquet.





Other exclusive releases are planned for the month of February 2015 on some channels throughout Africa. Specific dates would be published on www.emujow.com and through emujow’s social network channels on twitter (@emujow) and instagram (emujow).








Furthermore, Shoggy Tosh is planning an official premier release on 22nd March, 2015 in London, United Kingdom. The premier would showcase the 'making' of the rap song (shot and edited by London based Roger Russell of the Double R promotions), the music video, directed by Femi Best Touch, feature some top music artistes, an exclusive performance from Shoggy Tosh and Shady Blue, an after party and some other exciting side shows.







Only few weeks ago (October, 2014), emujow won the best African praise/contemporary song at the 6th Annual Dinner Awards & Dance event – the 2014 PGMA London awards held at Rowans Leisure Grand Suite. Finsbury Park, London on Saturday, 11th October 2014.
-Tosh Mag